Big news! My daughter is getting married....which means I'm going to become a mother-in law....yikes! Having just defined my 'new normal' I find myself having to tweak it a bit. Let's see I am now a daughter, a sister, an ex-wife, a mother, an aunt, a teacher, a writer, an artist, and now I'm adding a new role to the mix.....it is a bit daunting. Will have to absorb it all and see what transpires.
Let me tell you about the how the proposal went....that's always fun isn't
The first time I met him, he was somewhat quiet but the thing that struck me was the way he looked at my daughter. There was absolute love in his eyes....and five years later, it is still there. He treats her with kindness and courtesy that isn't forced but a natural part of his personality. He cherishes her and as her mother, that is what I want for her. He has been with her through some rough patches over the past five years and says that he admires her strength in dealing with them.....he's also had to deal with her stubbornness and temper and still looks at her with love....a good man.
Fast forward a bit....last Friday he called to speak with me....rather he called to ask for her hand in marriage...which touched my heart. I know he also spoke with her father but the fact that he honored me with the same courtesy says a lot about the kind of man he is. He regretted not being able to speak with me face to face...but as he lives in another city the time constraints were difficult. As for myself, the fact that he thought enough of me to call was enough. You see, since my divorce, my daughter and I have had a very rocky time.....very rough on both of us....but over the past year we've slowly begun building a better relationship. Although there were times I thought she would never include me in any part of her life.....it was devastating. But we are both in a better place now I think....
Okay enough about that. On to the proposal itself......he proved himself a romantic in my eyes! Under the pretext of going to see his relatives, he got my daughter up bright and early to drive to the event...."a family reunion" ha ha. It is about an hour drive and they had to go through the town where my daughter attended university. Under the guise of needing coffee before seeing the family, he took her to a little coffee shop....the one where they had their first 'date'...yes, I know...romantic. AND he had one of his cousins staked out to video the proposal! I know, I know!! Anyway, he had the ring on top of the cup around a chocolate covered coffee bean....and he went down on one knee and everything......he was crying, she was crying, the cousin was crying.....it was amazing! I'm crying just thinking about it.
The afternoon became a whirlwind of telling everyone and showing the ring and all the things which go along with becoming engaged.
It would be easy for me to get wrapped up in all that lies ahead....but I've learned to take one day at a time. Making plans for the wedding will come...but for now, I am content in knowing that my daughter is happy and loved by a good man......the other things will come, in time. My prayers for my daughter have always included her husband to be......and now that he is here in her life and he has a name....my prayers will be more specific. And as always I will trust God to take care of them both.